Sunday, December 4

Guest Author Barbara Monajem

Kiss and Tell
by Barbara Monajem

Since I write in two genres – contemporary paranormal and Regency historical – I have to approach kissing and its significance in two different ways. My historical heroines have to be very, very careful about who they kiss. In fact, they probably shouldn’t kiss a guy until they’re married to him, or at least engaged. Not that they actually follow these rules – a romance has to have a first kiss at the very least, and usually a whole lot more – but they have to appear to follow the rules. Back then, if a man kissed a well-bred woman and didn’t intend to marry her, it was extremely important for him to be discreet. If he kissed and told, he would damage her reputation, ruin her chances of marrying, perhaps even cause her to be shunned from good society. (Either that, or he might be forced to marry her.) Similarly, she wouldn’t talk about it except to someone she could trust, and even then she might hesitate because of shame or fear of accidental exposure.

Nowadays, kissing isn’t seen as a big deal. It’s more usual to kiss many people and likely sleep with some before marriage. However, this doesn’t mean people should go around kissing and telling. It’s one thing to know that, for example, a girl called Rose had sex with a guy named Jack. (Just so you know, these are the hero and heroine in Tastes of Love and Evil, my second paranormal romance about the funky Louisiana town of Bayou Gavotte). Say Rose’s BFF wants to know everything about what it was like with Jack. Should she tell her… or is sex a private matter? What if Jack wants to tell his buddies about the hot sex with Rose? Or what if either of them thought the other was a dead bore in bed? (They didn’t; this is hypothetical.) Should they say so, or just politely say, “We didn’t hit it off?”

I’m asking because I see a lot of Kiss and Tell in movies, TV, and contemporary romances, too. Do you think this reflects real life? Do people often go into details about their sex lives, or is that considered TMI? If you ask me, it’s TMI. Mostly, I just don’t want to know. How about you?


Rose Fairburn is on the run. Her vampire nature can’t protect her from everything, especially not herself. Now, when she should be worried about escaping her past, she can only think about one thing. Her kind can’t live without blood or sex. Love they must forego.

Jack Tallis can slake her thirst. Tall. Handsome. Trustworthy. And not a man alive can resist a vamp’s allure. But…Jack can. And he has other secrets, like why underworld hit men are on his trail. How he can vanish into thin air. Love suddenly seems possible, but the shadows hide mysteries darker than Rose can even dream, and all will be revealed in the fetish clubs of one strange Louisiana town….



Twitter: @BarbaraMonajem


Barbara Monajem wrote her first story in third grade about apple tree gnomes. After dabbling in neighborhood musicals and teen melodrama, she published a middle-grade fantasy when her children were young. Now her kids are adults, and she's writing historical and paranormal romance for grownups. She lives in Georgia with an ever-shifting population of relatives, friends, and feline strays.


  1. I think its all a matter of degrees & personality how someone will react if they find out that the person they kissed has been telling. Maybe I'm typecasting here, but it really does seem like the more confident the guy or girl is, the more likely they are to shrug off kissing & telling. Where as the painfully shy, can be deeply scarred by what to them is a breach of trust.

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  2. I don't want to know either, Barbara. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but some things should be left private.

  3. I prefer not to have people kiss and tell to me. I don't do it myself either, then again, I'm married, so it's not a one night fling. lol

    Great post, Barbara! Thanks for guesting with me!

  4. Kathryn, I agree. Some people can let that sort of thing roll off their backs. They may even enjoy being talked about. Takes all sorts, I guess. ;)

    Josie, I don't think it's old-fashioned. Maybe it's just that the kiss and tell types are more vocal, so we hear about them, LOL.

    Thanks, Sarah. It was fun doing a guest post here. :)

  5. What a great cover. This book looks great and would love to win and read. Been following the hop and a bunch of great authors and books. Thanks for the chance to win.

  6. TV shows and Movies make such conversations seem okay and even the norm.

    I think there are limits to what I want to tell anyone. some of it is a generation thing.

  7. I can stand 'kiss and tell' people. It shows a weakness in charcater and a useless need to brag, maybe because the gossipy person uses the 'secret' to present himself in a better light. I said 'he' on purpose. LOL

  8. I enjoyed your post. I think a true gentleman wouldn't sully a woman's reputation now or back then. But how many true gentleman are there these days?

  9. I'll bet some catty women made stories up to tarnish their opponents for a man's interest!
    I think there is a limit to kiss and tell for me, but some women will say anything.
    I'll also bet the apple gnome story was great and would make a good kids story! You rock Barbara!!


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