tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17424387.post3243802951125703469..comments2024-02-23T03:37:15.400-05:00Comments on Sarah Mäkelä: How much is too much?Sarah Mäkelähttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10239437847082720298noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17424387.post-24910986405635679042009-01-28T22:04:00.000-05:002009-01-28T22:04:00.000-05:00Thanks for the comment, Pandem. I appreciate your ...Thanks for the comment, Pandem. I appreciate your thoughts. Glad to have been of service on your quest for erotic safe sex.Sarah Mäkelähttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10239437847082720298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17424387.post-83406084349292625862009-01-28T21:34:00.000-05:002009-01-28T21:34:00.000-05:00That's something I've wondered about, even though ...That's something I've wondered about, even though in my own writing I portray monogamistic, devoted couples, and generally not strangers having sex for the first time. However, that does happen in a couple of stories I'm working on, so maybe I can figure out a way to make it erotic to put on a condom? We'll see. . .I welcome the challenge *s*<BR/><BR/>As for why it's important for authors to do so and not movies, well, I think it's equally important for both forms of entertainment to show safe, responsible sexual practices. If there is any reason that authors have more of a responsibility than movies, it's because books are more interactive than movies. Books require the reader to visualize what's goes on; books fire up the imagination and sometimes the loins *s* Movies show fantasies, books create fantasies, if that makes sense. So, because we're more mentally interactive than movies are, maybe we do have more a responsibility to make sure that those who try to follow the fantasies we've engendered do so in a responsible way? I don't know. . .I know that fiction is fiction and the rules are different in the real world, but can make the assumption that all our readers will do the same? Can we serve them better by including condoms and birth control and safe sexual practices? I don't know if I can answer that question for anyone but myself, and really, I don't even have an answer for myself *s*<BR/><BR/>You've given me something to think about, Sarah. . .and a challenge to make safe sex erotic *s*<BR/><BR/>PandemPandemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14887594865531899941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17424387.post-68751528432139994252009-01-28T19:48:00.000-05:002009-01-28T19:48:00.000-05:00Angietheresa, thank you for your great comment. I ...Angietheresa, thank you for your great comment. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. =) You make a valid point, but what about condoms being implied by the fact that other mundane daily things aren't shown? With most of my novels being dark urban fantasy/dark paranormal romances, there's pretty much a 99% chance of there ever being a pregnancy in one of my books.<BR/><BR/>You make a really valid point, and one that I agree with for young adult novels. Some teens might take more notice from books than their parents, which isn't very good. <BR/><BR/>I am very much for safe sex, but going back to my question about the publishing industry vs Hollywood... Teens are watching movies probably more than reading books, but Hollywood hasn't really addressed this issue of condoms/safe sex (in the movies I've seen). Why do authors need to?Sarah Mäkelähttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10239437847082720298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17424387.post-44210131690720003152009-01-28T19:19:00.000-05:002009-01-28T19:19:00.000-05:00My enter finger jumped the gun, Skhye. LOLBeing a ...My enter finger jumped the gun, Skhye. LOL<BR/><BR/>Being a reader of historical novels, I know what you mean, although with those mundane daily activities, I don't really have a problem with being shown what they do since it's different in its way from what we do today.<BR/><BR/>I agree that the characters having the motivation to protect themselves against diseases and pregnancy is solid and should be taken into consideration, but what about just having a intelligent, self-respecting character? Does the reader need to be told they use a condom, etc?Sarah Mäkelähttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10239437847082720298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17424387.post-67079113824797815402009-01-28T19:07:00.000-05:002009-01-28T19:07:00.000-05:00Skhye, thanks for the great comment. I really agre...Skhye, thanks for the great comment. I really agree. I thought some of the things the heroine did in The Last Templar movie stretched belief. The hero (Sean Daily), on the other hand, was quite yummy, and I enjoyed his character.<BR/><BR/>I agree that the romantic growth was ready for donning a condom, but with the fact that they didn't really have as much romance as one would thing to sleep with each other before they went into the desert, then it's rather unlikely that either of them had one handy in case the mood hit. And at the end of the movie, nobody expected the heroine to become pregnant, so why does that happen in books?Sarah Mäkelähttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10239437847082720298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17424387.post-72534403799710523042009-01-28T08:00:00.000-05:002009-01-28T08:00:00.000-05:00i think that its important to make comdoms part of...i think that its important to make comdoms part of the scene if you not going to make your heroine pregnat. <BR/><BR/>in todays life it is very impornat that we get the message across that its better to have safe sex. and you never know how much a story can get it across rater that being told over and over again ( which some think is uncool) but if its in a book its (becomes cool) i spoke to some tens that told me that they take more notice if its in most of the books they read rather that from parents or othersAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17424387.post-84302857873776643082009-01-28T07:45:00.000-05:002009-01-28T07:45:00.000-05:00Oh lord, Sarah. The Last Templar was really stupid...Oh lord, Sarah. The Last Templar was really stupid the first night. But it showed a developing romantic interest. I had meant to watch the second half. But forgot. I guess that tells you how bad the first half was... I can't believe the heroine got away with everything she DID. But the romantic growth was ready for the donning of a condom if that's what you're implying happened in the desert. ;) <BR/><BR/>On the other hand, can you imagine all the mundane daily activities being described in historicals to flesh out daily lives--ad nauseum? I think it's a given that if a character uses something for protection against venereal disease or pregnancy that said character is motivated to do so. Motivation makes the scene an author has set and creates the ambiance of risk or love. ~SkhyeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com